I think at some point every married person has been temped to engage in behavior that is inappropriate. Its not a topic most Christians are comfortable with.

I’d say for myself in my early years that temptation was stronger at times, but I never acted on it. The desire to act on it was there, and the opportunity was there but when it counted I didn’t bite. But I still thought about it and before you judge too harshly – David, a man after Gods own heart, fell for that trap with Bathsheba – and what did it cost him? David’s house was filled with strife, violence, sin, and immorality (by his kids) for the rest of his life, I think that had I gone that route – at minimum; my relationship with my children would have been obliterated. I’ve talked in the past about how important my role as a father is, and that if I ever became a dad, I’d be the best dad of anyone I know – I’m always there for my kids, I always help them, I always show up – even yesterday, I talked with my daughter about the ethics regarding abortion, how to love Trans people but not to accept or affirm a lie, Christianity, values, etc. for almost 2 and a half hours… we got heated, we laughed, and we found common ground… but I can’t be a legit Christian father if I pull some stupid stunt and break their faith in me.

We (Christian men) need to be the ones to instruct our children on right behavior, and first off, we have to live it, we have to own our mistakes and keep moving forward. Your kid shouldn’t be learning life on Facebook, X, or Instagram – they need fathers that step up and lead by example, and talk about it. We also need to be the most Godly force in our families, more so than our wives.. why? Because at the end of day, we are responsible for it, we are on the hook with God and we will be judged for it – are you ready for that conversation? And a wife who follows her husband into sin has no excuses either. To be the absolute best husbands & fathers we can be – we can only do that if we are putting God first in our lives and he is leading us, when God leads us men, we can then by extension – lead our families.

If daughters want to know how their boyfriend should be treating them, all they should do is know how you treat their mother. If your sons need to understand what a Godly man acts like and how he steps up, all he should have to do is look at his father. That is how it is in my home, its not perfect but it is always improving.

As head of the household (that’s my belief), men need to push away any woman that tries too gets to close – don’t talk to them, block them, and don’t even look at them again or acknowledge them, don’t drive past their place, in my eyes that there is something sadly pathetic about that. There can be no hesitation in cutting them out – that’s wrong. Its taken time for me to understand that, but it’s important.

I’m not saying that this approach needs to be applied to everyone, its fine to wave or just talk in public or whatever, but when a person isn’t just being kind or polite, and is crossing the boundary into anything more than that – you need to cut them out.. or maybe you can’t trust yourself around them.. if so, you need to take yourself out of commission. I’ve had to pray for strength and rip out all weakness out of my character.

There is a reason in the bible, Joseph ran away from Potiphar’s wife – it’s possible that if he hadn’t run, he wouldn’t have gotten away at all. But Potiphar’s wife wasn’t really looking for love, just lust. The point is that it doesn’t matter how hot she was or what he was feeling – the right move was always for Joseph to bounce out of there. We wouldn’t be reading about Joseph being bestowed with such honor, had he made any other choice.

Maybe my response to this sounds extreme but we should be hot or cold, not lukewarm; if you’re kind of faithful and kind of not – there can be no “hidden love”, to me that’s like totally sketch. That’s a wishy washy approach to love and I reject that outright.

Jason